The plan was that I was going to spend the afternoon and stay over at a guy friend's house. There was nothing really planned other than I was gonna spend time with them for their weekend off. We spent the day together going from friend's housewarming, to dinner with his folks, back to housewarming, and then the club. Once it was near closing time, we went to Denny's and then to his place for the night. We watched Batman Forever and our topic of conversation may have made a turn for the raunchy side. I will admit, I had an attraction to him. he had a lot of the personality qualities that I admired and he was, to me, easy on the eyes.
As one may guess, the conversation took a turn from playful banter to a little more seductive. I was given the expressed warning that "if I start something, I had to finish it" and that is exactly what happened. He was gentle and showed me that I can enjoy being a bottom as long as the other partner knows what they are doing. I would be lying if I said that I didn't grow a little more attached to him after that. Most of all, afterward, he was still sweet and gentle, and made me feel like a human being with feelings rather than "just a fuck" like I had previously experienced before with a one night encounter.
After mentioning the great time I had had to a couple of close friends, an inside joke had started that I think got a little too carried away, and may have been the downfall to there ever being a future between us, well, any chance of a romantic relationship at least. However I did learn a lot from him and not just about the physical aspect of intimacy, but also in what I want and/or need in a life partner. For that I will forever be grateful to him.
Update (as of 8/22/16): The gentleman in this post is currently in a relationship and happily married. We are still friends even though we don't chat or hang out as much as we used to, we are still connected on social media and I am always happy to hear of any good news that comes his way, including (and he actually mentioned it to me in a message) his relationship and eventual marriage. I am thoroughly happy for him and wish him and his husband the absolute best.
Monday, August 20, 2012
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Facebook and Photographs
These past few weeks have been quite eventful and busy. I went to my "adoptive parents" 50th wedding anniversary party. For those wondering, no, I'm not adopted they sort of became a second set of parents to me when I was growing up and living in Gardiner, Maine.
I went to Pemaquid Point with both sets of parents. I took many photos and got a nice sun burn/tan. It's more of a tan than a burn, since it really never hurt.
I also went on a date to Fort Williams. It was very peaceful and a gorgeous area.
Today, I was lectured about putting the pictures that both mom and I took in my photo album on Facebook. "It looks like you took all the pictures and we have to go to your page and your albums to see them."
I don't know what it is about Facebook, and photographs, but it seems to cause a LOT of drama. People don't want other people "Sharing" their photos, I'm in the dog house for adding both sets of photos from mom and I's camera in my photo album.
When we went and took the pictures at Pemaquid Point, I had just gotten out of work and was asked to go. I'm glad I did because I had a good time. After we got home, I put the pictures that I took in the photo album on my profile and stated that after, I was gonna go to bed since I had to work that night as well. Well, as soon as they showed up on my page I was asked to put the others on. I stated that I was tired and planned on getting some rest before work, I was told that it wouldn't take me long and to do it. To make things simple and easier for me, I posted them under my account on the same album to save time and not have to to fuddle around with the separate computers or logging on and off of Facebook.
I'm just fed up with the drama when it comes to photos on Facebook. Who fucking cares who took what photo, and all the "oh those are my photos, I'm now not okay with you having them on your Facebook page", and all that bullshit. Who fucking cares.
Firstly, if you don't want your photos shared and what not, CHANGE THE PRIVACY SETTINGS! if you have it set to only YOUR FRIENDS, then ONLY YOUR FRIENDS will see them. A message will appear stating that "you can not view this photo because you are not friends with the person who posted it" will pop up. PROBLEM SOLVED.
As far as the last one, I added the photos on their account in their own album, All the photos because they wanted ALL of the photos....and then made it clear that "I"m not posting any more God-damned photos on my profile because people tend to get touchy about pictures and photos on Facebook." Now, run that through your teeth.
I went to Pemaquid Point with both sets of parents. I took many photos and got a nice sun burn/tan. It's more of a tan than a burn, since it really never hurt.
I also went on a date to Fort Williams. It was very peaceful and a gorgeous area.
Today, I was lectured about putting the pictures that both mom and I took in my photo album on Facebook. "It looks like you took all the pictures and we have to go to your page and your albums to see them."
I don't know what it is about Facebook, and photographs, but it seems to cause a LOT of drama. People don't want other people "Sharing" their photos, I'm in the dog house for adding both sets of photos from mom and I's camera in my photo album.
When we went and took the pictures at Pemaquid Point, I had just gotten out of work and was asked to go. I'm glad I did because I had a good time. After we got home, I put the pictures that I took in the photo album on my profile and stated that after, I was gonna go to bed since I had to work that night as well. Well, as soon as they showed up on my page I was asked to put the others on. I stated that I was tired and planned on getting some rest before work, I was told that it wouldn't take me long and to do it. To make things simple and easier for me, I posted them under my account on the same album to save time and not have to to fuddle around with the separate computers or logging on and off of Facebook.
I'm just fed up with the drama when it comes to photos on Facebook. Who fucking cares who took what photo, and all the "oh those are my photos, I'm now not okay with you having them on your Facebook page", and all that bullshit. Who fucking cares.
Firstly, if you don't want your photos shared and what not, CHANGE THE PRIVACY SETTINGS! if you have it set to only YOUR FRIENDS, then ONLY YOUR FRIENDS will see them. A message will appear stating that "you can not view this photo because you are not friends with the person who posted it" will pop up. PROBLEM SOLVED.
As far as the last one, I added the photos on their account in their own album, All the photos because they wanted ALL of the photos....and then made it clear that "I"m not posting any more God-damned photos on my profile because people tend to get touchy about pictures and photos on Facebook." Now, run that through your teeth.
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
I Just Can't Stop Listening!
I've discovered Podcasts..... I'm in a seventh heaven right now, listening to a LOT of Dan Savage and the Savage Love Podcast. I can't seem to get enough of it and each half hour, or more, segment seems to slip by very fast. I've listened to other Podcasts that are just as long, maybe a little longer, but all have DRAGGED!!!! Either they dragged or I just can't seem to get into them like Dan's. I sort of wish I could start my own, but I'm not sure on what I'd talk about. One idea was using Danessa and creating a "School of Drag" Podcast, however, I think that one will probably have to wait until I know what I'm doing or decide to want to look into it further at all. Another idea, the one that prompted me to take interest in starting a Podcast, was a Music Theory podcast since there are none, if any.
I did a search for Podcasting "How-to's" and discovered that Blogger, this site that my blog that your reading at this very moment is on, also allows for Podcasts via the RSS feed. All of this is something I would love to learn more about. I do know that I can create a podcast and upload it into a post on here, too. OR I can use PodOmatic, a website designed for creating and sharing podcasts. The more I think about it, the more I want to learn about this and how it works and how to create it and everything in the creation side. I feel it would be fun, Fun, FUN! Ha ha ha.
On a more personal level, I've been talking to a guy in Rochester, NH. So far he seems amazing. We have lots in common, and some things that are not but keep us unique. He's been through similar to what I've been through over the years in the dating scene. He seems to be just about everything that I want/need/looking for. We are already talking about meeting up, possibly first date. I'm a little leery of this because we haven't really been talking that long, and I know some say to meet up after the second message, but I feel like I want to take things super gradual. Not just because I'm scared of what could/could not happen, but I don't have a lot of flexibility at this time to devote to trips to New Hampshire. I'm sure they will be required after a while. I would like to move to New Hampshire, however, I won't be able to for a long while, and I don't feel he should have to uproot to be with me. So far, we're just talking, nothing set in stone. I really like him. I'm just not sure if he'd be okay with wanting to take things really slow, start out just as friends. :-S
UPDATES:
Birthday Ditcher: SO, the person that ditched me on my birthday feels bad about what happened, he was "drunk". I get it, I understand it. Does that make what happened right? No. Am I willing to forgive? Hell yes. I suppose I should contact them soon to let them know that I'm no longer unsafe to message, now that I've cooled off.
The Guy with the Eyes: So far, I haven't seen or met up with the guy with the eyes that made me have visions of an old friend and crush. The most for contact that they have sent me is game requests on facebook and that's about it. I'm not entirely sure if they even remember talking to me that night. Anyway, I need to stay away from him in order to keep myself out of trouble.
I did a search for Podcasting "How-to's" and discovered that Blogger, this site that my blog that your reading at this very moment is on, also allows for Podcasts via the RSS feed. All of this is something I would love to learn more about. I do know that I can create a podcast and upload it into a post on here, too. OR I can use PodOmatic, a website designed for creating and sharing podcasts. The more I think about it, the more I want to learn about this and how it works and how to create it and everything in the creation side. I feel it would be fun, Fun, FUN! Ha ha ha.
On a more personal level, I've been talking to a guy in Rochester, NH. So far he seems amazing. We have lots in common, and some things that are not but keep us unique. He's been through similar to what I've been through over the years in the dating scene. He seems to be just about everything that I want/need/looking for. We are already talking about meeting up, possibly first date. I'm a little leery of this because we haven't really been talking that long, and I know some say to meet up after the second message, but I feel like I want to take things super gradual. Not just because I'm scared of what could/could not happen, but I don't have a lot of flexibility at this time to devote to trips to New Hampshire. I'm sure they will be required after a while. I would like to move to New Hampshire, however, I won't be able to for a long while, and I don't feel he should have to uproot to be with me. So far, we're just talking, nothing set in stone. I really like him. I'm just not sure if he'd be okay with wanting to take things really slow, start out just as friends. :-S
UPDATES:
Birthday Ditcher: SO, the person that ditched me on my birthday feels bad about what happened, he was "drunk". I get it, I understand it. Does that make what happened right? No. Am I willing to forgive? Hell yes. I suppose I should contact them soon to let them know that I'm no longer unsafe to message, now that I've cooled off.
The Guy with the Eyes: So far, I haven't seen or met up with the guy with the eyes that made me have visions of an old friend and crush. The most for contact that they have sent me is game requests on facebook and that's about it. I'm not entirely sure if they even remember talking to me that night. Anyway, I need to stay away from him in order to keep myself out of trouble.
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